You’ve got the ring on your finger, so what’s next? Now its time to choose your most beloved friends and family to stand beside you on your big day. As marriage proposals have grown more elaborate, its not surprising that “bridesmaid proposals” have as well. Being a bridesmaid can be a large time and financial commitment. I think it is so important to show these ladies how much they mean to you, and how much you appropriate their willingness to help make your big day so special.
I have been blessed with so many friends and family in my life. I have been fortunate enough to have gained even more lovely ladies and role models in my life due to my fiance. While I would love to have everyone that has made an impact in my life be in my wedding, it just is not possible! When trying to decide on your bridesmaids keep these four things in mind.
- More is not always merrier. The more ladies you have the more potential you have for complications. You’ll need to get more people to agree on a dress, decide on a shower date, and coordinate all other lovely bridal party festivities. Not only can this be a heavy load for the Maid or Matron of honor it can cause unnecessary stress for YOU the bride!
- Blood is thicker than water. I come from an extremely large family. I not only have my mom and dads side, but both of my parents remarried adding two more sets of “blood-line”, as well as the two sets of family from my fiance’s side. This is without including high school friends, college friends, and work friends. While this can seem like the only answer is to have 36 bridesmaids to make everyone happy, I am here to tell you it is not. Your friends understand that trying to pick a bridal party is not an easy task. They also understand that you cannot make everyone happy. Lastly, your friends love you and want to see you happy on one of the most important days of your life. They do not want you stressing and worried that you did not ask them to be a bridesmaid. There are so many others ways to include your close friends in your wedding that does not include being a bridesmaid. Your wedding showers, bachelorette party, and THE BIG DAY!
- Try not to make hasty assumptions! Do not write off some friend or family simply because you think they do not have enough money to afford it. If you are wanting to ask a friend or family member that you know is having financial difficulties, you can always tell her that you’d love for her to be a bridesmaid, but understand the financial difficulties. If she has to decline, promise to find something else for her to do in the wedding.
- .You do not have to return the favor. Just because someone asked you to be in her wedding does not mean that you must have her in yours. There, I said it. This is not a dinner party invitation that you need to reciprocate. Don’t ask the college roommate you haven’t spoken to in years just to return the favor.
You’ve always dreamed of planning the perfect wedding, but no matter how carefully you plan it, there are many things that can go wrong, things that are beyond your control. What if your reception venue goes out of business a month before the wedding, and you lose your deposit and have to find another location? Do you have a destination wedding planned, what if a hurricane causes your wedding to be postponed? What if your bridal shop orders the wrong dress, leaving you without a gown? These are all real problems that a bride and groom are face when planning a wedding. Do not, and I repeat DO NOT let choosing your wedding party add to the list. These are all people in you and your future husband’s life that love you and they just want you to be happy.